Toi Et Moi Ring From Past To Present:

June 9, 2015

By Katerina Perez

3 min read

One thing you can guarantee about fashion trends is that they come and go, and here is one which has come bursting back to the forefront of high jewellery art – you will certainly have spotted it if you were at the Bienniale des Antiquaires. Toi et Moi, literally meaning ‘you and me’ in French, is a style of jewellery which incorporates two central decorative elements.

Rings, bracelets and earrings are the typical pieces to use this style; the earrings are usually asymmetrical, while the rings and bracelets feature two identically or similarly sized gemstones set opposite one another. So I do not talk about them all at once, in this article I am going to tell you a few facts about rings.

Graff Diamonds

The traditional design is a ring with two stones of the same or similar proportions either in matching colours, as you will get from Harry Winston, or different, as in William Goldberg’s ring with pink and yellow marquis-cut diamonds.

The real spark of the TOI ET MOI design lies in the way the stones complement each other, as they do in the Messika ring with pink and white pear-cut diamonds, or contrast on another, as in the designs from Ivy New York which mixes diamonds with two different colour spinels.

The contemporary TOI ET MOI ring differs from the traditional imagining in that it does not have to be precious stones that are fixed to each end, but any decorative element – Chopard feature flowers on their ring, De Beers white gold swirls and Boucheron opt for snake heads.

The first famous example of a TOI ET MOI ring was the engagement ring given to Josephine by Napoleon in 1796. There is no doubt that featuring two gemstones set in opposition was an existing practice, but Napoleon’s engagement gift brought it to the attention of the wider world after it was sold for nearly a million dollars at the Osenat auction in Paris.

Napoleon and Josephines engagement ring

The TOI ET MOI ring reached its peak popularity at the turn of the 20th Century as a common engagement present – it served as a perfect symbol of the union of two souls in love.

The most valuable example was designed by French jewellery Alexandre Reza and sold at auction on 11th May 2010 at Sotheby’s for $6.32 million. The piece featured two rare pear-cut diamonds, one a 5.02 carat pale blue Fancy Vivid diamond and the other a clear stone weight 5.42 carats.

A TOI ET MOI ring by Van Cleef&Arpels featuring a diamond and an emerald was the engagement gift given by John Kennedy to his future wife Jackie Bouvier, while the Danish Prince Henrik got down on one knee for Queen Margaret with a ring from the same jeweller featuring two round diamond stones. And in 2005 Jesse James gave a similar double diamond ring to the American actress Sandra Bullock.

You can purchase a TOI ET MOI ring at auction at Christie’s and Sotheby’s and they can be found in pretty much any catalogue, especially if you are looking for the important stones. For the widest range of two-stone rings the best designer to go for is Alexandre Reza.

So, if you like experimenting with unusual jewellery then you should definitely consider treating yourself to a TOI ET MOI ring.

Alexandre Reza

Slithering Success: The Best Year of the Snake Watches for Chinese New Year 2025

by Sarah Jordan

Knock on Wood: Precious Wooden Jewellery for Luck and Grounding 

Would you consider swapping gold and gemstones for wood?

by Rachael Taylor

Glorious Garnets: Why This Lesser-Known Gemstone is Undergoing a Renaissance

Found in the jewellery of Egyptian pharaohs and ancient Romans, the Victorians adored the red variety of garnet for which this gemstone is best known. Jewellery in the 19th century wasn’t just an accessory; it was a vehicle of expression

by Claire Roberts

Heavy Metal: The Trend For Bold Gold Medallions Gathers Pace

Medallions infused with meaning are hot property right now, as jewellery lovers fall for the symbolism and style of these statement designs.

by Rachael Taylor

New Horizons: Building a New Life in Hong Kong with Valentina Fine Jewellery 

Life can take you in unexpected directions – this is one thing I know for sure. Sometimes, though, these directions can lead to hugely exciting, life-altering events!

by Sarah Jordan

Star of Singapore: Exploring the Incredible Legacy of B.P. de Silva 

The brand’s heritage traces back more than 150 years and it is now run by the fifth generation of the founding family. It is a real destination.

by Katerina Perez

Kiss and Tell: How Selena Gomez Put Marquise Diamonds on the Map

The marquise diamond has found itself in the spotlight once again as the star of Selena Gomez's engagement ring

by Rachael Taylor

Subscription banner

Katerina PerezClub

Step into a universe devoted to jewellery that has been especially curated to indulge your passion, impart knowledge and inspire the next steps on your jewellery journey. Discover exclusive content you won’t find elsewhere.

join the club

Latest Stories

Add articles and images to your favourites. Just

Gem Focus:Brazil Gem Commerce

Discover a company specialising in the cutting and trading of Brazilian and African precious gems, including Paraiba, rubellite and morganite

by Katerina Perez

Jewels Katerina Perez Loves

Continue Reading

Ask Katerina:Diamond Jewellery Styling Tips for Modern Dressing

Here are some of the answers I gave during the presentation to aid your jewellery dressing…

by Katerina Perez

Jewellery Insights straight to your inbox

Style Guide

By using this website, you agree to the storing of cookies on your device to enhance site navigation, analyze site usage, and assist in our marketing efforts. View our Privacy Policy for more information.